Most Terrible Relationship Advice Ever Give

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Most Terrible Relationship Advice Ever Give

**Opposites attract**
A recipe for disaster is looking for someone completely different from you in any meaningful way. You must have some shared goals and principles. If not, there won't be any glue holding the partnership together. We are attracted to our romantic partners not because they are "opposites" but because of specific personality features, interests, and even biological cues.

**A woman who earns more can be a threaten to male partner**
Surprisingly, many women are still advised to hide their achievements when dating. But some men are just more suitable for domestic duties. In fact, many guys are far better than their partners at cleaning and cooking. And that's totally OK! Thankfully, today couples believe that gender roles can be flexible and that their ability to function as a team is way more important than any gender stereotypes or societal norms.

**Love hurts**
Although that may sound theatrically romantic, nothing could be farther from reality. True love doesn’t hurt. A person who does not know how to love you does.

**Play hard to get**
Playing hard to get with a person you are interested in will likely result in you staying single as a pringle! Very few people have the time and "drive" to persistently pursue someone who doesn't return the effort. At least not today, with the abundance of options on dating apps. And no, the phrase "If I'm too much, go find less" is not applicable here. If you like the person, quit playing these silly games AND SHOW SOME EFFORT.

**Anything for a quiet life**
Let them win an argument, it’s better to give in you might think, but what if they're really wrong? Let someone get their own way for too long and it can only lead to resentment.

**Children will save your relationships**
Many couples experiencing difficulties in their marriage believe that having a child would resolve their problems. Sadly, this approach is poorly thought out. A baby won't improve communication, so be completely honest with yourself and each other about what's happening before you decide to have a child as a last-ditch attempt to fix your marriage. Don't put pressure on someone who hasn't even come into this world.

**Leave the past in the past**
In a new relationship, it's important to stop dwelling on the past. However, certain matters are still important to talk about. You should talk about your health, problems that could hinder having kids, and disabling conditions that would make engaging in particular activities challenging. Also, your partner has a right to know whether past financial issues might imperil your relationship.

**Eliminate female friends**
This advice crops up every now and again for straight guys. If anything, a sudden disappearance from your life of all other women beside your girlfriend will look even more suspicious. If she can’t handle it that, yes, you have 12 Amazonian supermodels as close personal friends and, no, you don’t fancy any of them, then surely the issue is with her? As long as you're honest and don't act like a bunch of cliquey arseholes around her, she probably won’t care.

**Take the lock off your phone**
This is terrible advice. It’s perfectly OK to have secrets and personal space and your phone is an extension of that. It’s about boundaries and your partner shouldn’t be making you feel like you have something to hide just because you don’t show him or her all your texts.

**Be the man, fix their problems**
This only really works if you’re a plumber and their shower's broken. Otherwise, all you need to do is listen. Seriously. Scrabbling to fix an issue as soon as they tell you about it only serves to shut down the conversation and make them feel they haven't vented. It’s also good to admit to yourself you can’t have a solution for everything and nor should they expect it.

**Their jealousy just means they love you more**
A little envy now and again is fine. Still, if your partner frequently gets bitten by the green-eyed monster, it can indicate a dysfunctional relationship. Imagine someone who refuses to let you see their family and friends out of jealousy or becomes envious if you go out for coffee with a coworker. These behaviours can go too far and result in abusive conditions.

**You must fight to make a relationship work**
Do you? How hard? Sure, two personalities are always going to find conflict and want to go their own way, but if it takes a load of struggle and effort to keep things on an even keel, maybe it’s time to get back on Tinder.

**Never let her think your mum is more important than her**
An amazing and wrong piece of advice. OK, first of all, Mum might have something to say about all those hours she spent in labour, feeding you and paying for your Lego. There is definitely room for more than one woman in your life. Your mum is important in a wholly different way, surely everyone gets that? That said, you might be really unlucky and the pair of them could get on like a house on fire.

**Assume your partner is always right**
Only works if you are dating a calculator.

**Admitting you’re wrong is a sign of weakness**
In a world where everybody is willing to argue to the death on Twitter, actually 'fessing up that you made a mistake or perhaps don’t know as much as you thought you did is OK.

**Never go to bed on an argument**
Staying up through the night continuing to argue is not always a great idea. Sometimes a night of tossing and turning in between much-needed shuteye is perfect for giving you the new perspective. Imagine never sleeping again until you could reach some kind of détente, you’d have eye bags like space hoppers.

**You need to change them**
People who want to change their partner into something else should train to be a magician. Don’t try any of this rubbish, you fall in love with who you fall in love with. Once you’ve irrevocably modified them to suit your fantasy, what do you have left? A different person altogether, that's who. If somebody looks the part and you fancy them, but don’t have the right personality for you, leave them to someone who'll appreciate the full package, don’t ruin them to suit your own needs.

**Give compliments sparingly, if at all**
The key is to be sincere, if it would be welcome, and it’s the right time, compliment away. If it’s to detract attention from something you’ve done, it’ll look cheap and ruin the impact of any subsequent compliment you give.

**Be decisive, or you'll look weak**
Alternatively, be open to discussion and influence rather than a single-minded, immovable control freak who dominates every decision.

**You must earn each other’s trust**
Au contraire, you must trust each other straightway, it can only be lost, not earned. It isn’t for you to make amends for all the dickheads that came before you. Obviously if your partner has trust issues, be understanding and work through it, but you can’t start off in negative equity, the slate should be clean for you.