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Build Unbeatable Mental Toughness


Want to Build Unbeatable Mental Toughness?


Here Are 5 Surprisingly Effective Ways Productivity


Just one week after he graduated from Yale Law School, while he was training for the 2008 Beijing Olympic Games,

Seun Adebiyi was diagnosed with lymphoma and leukemia. This forced him to put his Olympic dreams on the back

burner as he rethought his life plans.


Adebiyi knows all about mental toughness and resilience. After experiencing firsthand the difficulty of finding stem

cell donors (the odds of finding a genetically compatible donor is less than 17 percent for those of African descent,

compared to 70 percent for Caucasians), Seun took it upon himself to found Nigeria's first national bone marrow

registry--the second ever in Africa.


And Adebiyi did eventually participate in the Olympics, carrying the torch for Nigeria in the 2018 Winter Olympic

Games. Today, Adebiyi is cancer-free, and he made the decision to become an entrepreneur. He's currently a

self-employed, freelance attorney with InCloudCounsel, a legal technology company that automates and enhances

high-volume legal processes.


Here, according to Seun Adebiyi, are five ways to develop unbeatable mental toughness.


1. Never confuse who you are with what you do.


The most common mistake people make is to confuse their self-worth with their accomplishments. Says Adebiyi, "I

remember when I first missed the Olympics--fracturing my spine from overtraining just months before the 2000

Games. It was my first major setback as an athlete, and I completely crumbled mentally--all because I had made

the mistake of tying my self-worth to my sense of accomplishment." In reality, nothing could be further from the



2. Master your inner dialogue.


What you say to yourself matters more than what the entire world together says about you. When he was fighting

leukemia with intensive chemo and full body radiation, Adebiyi refused to wear a hospital gown. Instead, he wore

workout sweats and did walking lunges up and down the linoleum hospital floors, pushing his surgically attached IV

pole next to him. Says Adebiyi, "Doctors and nurses looked at me like I was crazy, but I never accepted their

perspective that I was a 'cancer patient.' In my mind, I was an Olympic hopeful who just happened to be

overcoming cancer."


3. Learn to live in the moment.


Let's face it--sometimes life just kicks you in the teeth. Trying to avoid suffering is like trying to cross the Atlantic in

a rowboat without getting wet. When the storms of life start tossing you around like a toy, you need an anchor--

something you can cling to when all seems hopeless. According to Adebiyi, "That anchor was my breath. I just

focused on surviving from breath to breath, and repeated the following words over and over like a mantra: 'This too

shall pass.'"


4. Fortify your village, then build a moat.


In many African countries, there's a popular saying, "It takes a village to raise a child." This is true in life as well.

Learn to pick your associates carefully. Find those handful of people who will support you no matter what, invest

your time and energy in strengthening those relationships. As Adebiyi explains, you may also need to distance

yourself from the toxic people in your life who tear down your self-confidence. "This might involve some painful

conversations, spending less time on social media, and ending a few relationships," says Adebiyi. "But trust me, it's

virtually impossible to master your inner dialogue and develop inner resilience with someone whispering doubts in

your ear."


5. Be prepared, be prepared, be prepared.


As someone once said, never let a good crisis go to waste. Often, the biggest opportunities for personal and

professional growth are found in times of upheaval and uncertainty. The time to "hurricane-proof" your life isn't

when the shingles start to fly off the roof, but when the sky is still blue and sunny. Suggests Adebiyi, "Work on your

self-image, inner dialogue, present moment awareness, and key relationships now. It doesn't take much: You can

practice visualization/meditation every day, affirm your key relationships, and minimize negative influences with just

a few minutes each day."


And when life comes knocking, you'll be ready to rock.





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